I’ve drafted and deleted at least five posts in the past week.
Nice. New Orleans. Dallas. Turkey. Minnesota.
Bad stuff happens all over the world. And it happens for really stupid reasons like racism, religion and fear. Things we should’ve gotten over years ago.
We’re all looking for silver bullets.
That one article that sums up our feelings and will surely convince the opposition of their misguided views. Or even that one pundit whose outrage just pisses off the other side.
I don’t have many answers. I’m a white dude in one of the whitest states in America. I come from a background that placed me in close contact with people of color, people with different religions and difference economic backgrounds. But that was years ago. I’m safely ensconced in the suburbs now, and I write a little blog that’s read by 50 or so people every day.
In other words, you won’t find what you’re looking for here.
I have opinions, of course. I see things a certain way, but I’m under no auspices that anyone else should see things my way. I won’t be the loudest voice or the most well-spoken.
In fact, I’ve confessed to being so light of opinion that I’m willing to have my mind changed about anything.
All I can say to you is this:
The world has enough assholes. We’re filled up. Met the quota.
You don’t have to be one.
Be passionate and strong. When you find your truth, stick with it.
But the truth doesn’t grant you a license to be an asshole.
We’ve got people who bomb things and hurt other people. Too many of them.
We need more people who are kind. Who listen. Who make their points not in insults or one-liners but in dialog and example.
I’m not black. Or a cop. Or a religious fundamentalist. I don’t fall under any of the LGBTQ groups. I’m unaffiliated politically, left or right. I don’t have any ill will to anyone because of their skin color.
I can see their perspectives, for better or worse.
They’re all scared. I am in that group.
I’m naive enough to assume that me being a normal, polite human being when I come into contact with them (and anyone else) might actually improve their day. That maybe, if they meet enough decent people, their lens can change.
Sometimes this “assume everyone is a friend” approach hurts me. Because the world is running full of assholes.
But every day I make the choice to stay on the side of decent, rational, normal human beings.
I refuse to become a monster in order to defeat a monster.