You’ve heard me rant plenty about the truth, and how I just don’t think it exists.
One of the real-life conversations I’ve had in recent weeks went something like this:
Them: So you just believe what anyone tells you?
Me: What? Who said that?
Them: Well, you wrote on your blog that you don’t believe in the truth, and you learn from other people. So do you just buy whatever people are selling you?
Me: Actually, yeah. At least, I’m open to what they have to say.
Them: Do you really like being so flimsy? That sounds like an awful way to live.
Me: It’s not flimsy at all. It’s being open to what life has to offer.
Them: I don’t get it.
Me: Well, you’re a talking cat and I’m drunk, so let’s just agree to disagree.
I’m not saying to rid yourself of strongly held principles.
When you find something that’s true, keep it and build around it. But recognize the difference between truth and a belief.
You also don’t have to be as flimsy as those wacky wavy arm things that sit outside payday loan places. Don’t give in to every person with a conviction or a loud voice. The perception of authority is only that – a perception.
The screamer on talk radio, the person on the pulpit, the guy on the street corner with a megaphone – they’re all pushing something that may or may not be the truth.
They don’t get to decide what’s true. You do.
Hone your bullshit meter. You don’t believe everything your crazy ex posts on Facebook, right?
Go out and lose an argument. Make yourself vulnerable. Find thoughtful people and give them your time and ears. Then consider their truths.
Let others dig their heels in and live with their eyes closed. They have a right to, and they’re probably happy doing it. It isn’t the only path to happiness.
I happen to believe that the pursuit of what’s out there is a better path.
Ultimately, what’s true is up to you. The harder you scratch and claw to find it, and the more frequently you evaluate it, the better off you’ll be.
If that looks like flimsiness to the outside world, then so be it.
You know that’s not true.